Trending Now: Self Care

Trending Now: Self Care

Dear you, 

I hope you're doing swell! I know it's been a while and I'm gonna be honest I just haven't really known what to write....well actually there's been a lot of thoughts and ideas on what I want to write but I can never pick just one to elaborate on. So, as you can see, I just end up not doing anything at all. lol 

Either way I think I know what I'm writing about today, which I guess we'll see when I'm done. Hehe

So what's been on my mind lately? Me. (totally not in an "I'm just so awesome" conceited type of way. ...although I do think I'm pretty awesome ;)) But me in the sense of who I am, the way that I am, and why I am the way I am. (that was a lot of "am's" lol)  

Part of why I am the way I am is because that is the way my parents raised me. Well let's be honest, it's more than just "part." They are the reason I am who I am today. They lead me and guided me as much as they could as I was growing up. (along with my siblings of course) I also am the way that I am because that is the way God made me. He gave me characteristics that are unique to me, whether physically or emotionally or even mentally. He created me that way for a purpose. And I fully intend to tap into that purpose and use everything He gave me. And the last reason as to why I am the way that I am is because that is who I have allowed myself to become. That's right, it's me. I take full responsibility for the way that I am. 

I realized recently that I am more in control of myself than I thought I was. I didn't realize the power that I have over myself. I like to put it on other people but it's me. The reason I felt powerless wasn't because I was actually powerless, but it was because the power that I have over myself I left out in the open, free for people to take. And the funny thing is that those people don't even know they hold that power over me! I mean come on, that's crazy! 

We get so caught up in what other people think that we can't even fully be ourselves most of the time.

And what is this mortal enemy that has so much power over me? COMPARISON. I compare myself constantly and it sucks! I compare how I look, how I talk, how I sing, how I dress, how I take pictures, etc. I compare myself because I compare myself, not because anyone else is comparing me. 

I've realized that a lot of this comparison comes from social media, because everyone looks so cool on social media. Everyone's life is perfect on social media....WRONGO *Grinch voice* lol. Truth is (as we've all heard) everyone's social media is a highlight reel of their life. Mine included. I don't post about all the stuff I don't do with my life, only the stuff I do do that makes me look cool ;) haha. I'm not telling you to post your whole life on social media or that you should only post about all the bad things or not "cool" things in your life, but I want you to know that not everything about your life, or everyone else's life, is on social media. We only let people see what we want them to see. So don't let the power you have be taken from you based off of something that you do yourself. 

I'll be honest, I recently had to go through my social media and unfollow a few people. Not because they're bad people, but because I was putting myself through more pain and insecurities seeing them and comparing myself, and my life, to theirs. And I honestly feel so much better! This whole time I had the power to do that but I was scared because I wasn't sure what people would think. When the truth is it wasn't even about them, it was about me. It was about what I had going on in my mind that I had to get a grip on.

We all have a responsibility and power to take a look in the mirror and make the best decision for ourselves. Care about yourself. Take a look at your life and if there is something there that's maybe bringing you down or causing some conflict within yourself, get rid of it. Sometimes we just have to take a step back to see what's really going on, and that's totally ok! Caring about yourself and what you're feeding into yourself is the new cool! (and if it's on the internet, which it is since it's on here, then it must be true *wink wink*) You have the power. We all do. Be brave and be YOU. 

And now I will leave you with the most famous and cliche quote about power and responsibility EVER. 

"With great power comes great responsibility." 


Love, Vanessa



Dress - TJ Maxx

Shoes - Lulus

Hat - Urban Outfitters

Purse - Ross 

Earrings - TJ Maxx